Two Terms

Concerted Cultivation: the ideal physical manifestation of this concept are the cliche piano lessons almost every household in suburbia seems to partake in. As Annette Lareau describes the term, values, lessons, activities, and morales of the the upper middle class seem to be very important aspects of parenting. Parents seem to pride themselves on the lessons of self-motivation and knowledge to make their children more aware of the various social institutions. 

Opting Out: this word refers to the act of quitting work for household needs. This idea is especially seen in housewives and women who are forced to tend to their household's needs: a trend referred to as the "third shift" by Michael Messner. In most of the examples presented in the book, women are not doing the literal meaning of the term "opting out" but instead have no other choice because of financial circumstances.

Definitions

1) Strategic Friendliness- a study done by Jennifer Pierce which shows a strategy that lawyers use to get ahead in their field. By employing strategic friendliness they try to "win over or dominate" another person. Messner uses this term when defining the CEO coach's style of coaching. He argues that the CEO coach is no less competitive than the Drill Sergeant coach, but he uses strategic friendliness, or quick thinking and exceptional talking ability, to get ahead of his competition.


2) Pain Principle- the pain principle is a concept brought up by Don Sabo. In this principle Sabo is discussing how male athletes tend to want to fight through pains and injuries for in order to achieve the glory of winning. Men tend to thwart their bottled up feelings and emotions (of their struggles striving for success) towards their opponents in order to play at their highest level.