I was grew up in a very traditional family. I lived with my both parents and 2 older sisters until 2 years ago. As I am the youngest in my famly, my family members use all their love to care about me. I grew up in a "girlish" style, like I love play barbies as my sisters influenced me. I have many Barbie dolls and i forget the exact number of barbie that i own. I love to dressed in pink and putting all the decreation that i love to decreate my room. Thus, my room always decreate as pink and orange. I was not an independent people during the time that i live with my family. they take care of my daily lives, I was always to rely to them. however, everything has changed from two years ago.
I moved to L.A on my own. It is because my parents want me to learn independent and finish my further studies. I started my new life in L.A. I need to learn tough, like how to solve the homesick problem, I cannot cry every time that i faced to a big troble. I need to learn not to scare when i was facing an insect. These are because there are no more people could protect me anymore. I cannot act as that girlish and soft. Sometimes I need to learn how to be brave and learn what people labled men stuffs like changing a light bulb.
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That sounds very similar to my life. We were raised in the same manner and I was girlie because of what my sister told me to do as well. You were raised through anticipatory socialization just like me. Your parents or sister for that matter taught you to do gender appropriate tasks that will show you how you will be expected to act as you grow into an adult. Then you life took a big turn from this traditional lifestyle and you became extremely independent. You will be going through some very serious socialization now in which you figure out the values of society on your own. You have learned through your family how you are supposed to act and now you are faced with a serious problem with the fact that you have to act differently then you were taught in order to survive. By going against the typical gender role actions that you have learned it will be a new challenge for you each day. However, once you get used to this once again and fall back into a routine pattern you will start another new section of your life. A new challenge to gender opens up daily. What will it be next?
ReplyDelete• “Doing gender” (peer group interactions)
ReplyDelete• Institutional structures of gender
• Gender as cultural symbols
Socialization theory: family, school and religion
From your case, I have a better understanding about the theory above. You have been influenced by your family so much and you are doing your gender like playing with barbie, dressing pink and doing all girl's stuff which is similar to me. However, school have something opposite influence on you recently and makes you change more in order to adapt into the environment and society which is good to you. I believe you are a brave girl now. Based on that socialization theory, we are doing the sex role. I think no matter the sex role is, what we need to do is to blend into the culture while being ourselves.
In your bio, I found that you and your sisters were doing gender, because your sisters influenced you a lot when they played barbie dolls. And you had the institutional structures of gender from your family, they protected you and let you have much access to girly affairs. When it came to college life, I thought that your parents trained you to be independent. And also, you know from society that a girl shouldn't "cry every time that i faced to a big troble ", and this is related to socialization theory. Moreover, you find you like pink and barbie dolls, and this image fits so perfectly to the gender symbols in society, and that is all I have come up, hope it will not hurt you.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your bio with us!
Obviously you are very close to your family, and this, I think, is ultimately a good thing even though its tough coming to a new city. I also have been very sheltered by my family and as a result am very dependent on them. The views seem to me very dependent on gender norms, and that is very different for me. I grew up in a house of all women so all these lightbulb changes were done by women. Hopefully by spending time on your own, you'll realize that women can be independent and not dependent on men (socialization theory).
ReplyDeleteI find that your situation growing up was actually quite a bit different than mine- so that makes it a little more interesting for me to analyze. While my family never intentionally tried to influenced me in a particular direction, your family actually directly shaped your personality and activities. From what I've read, it seems like your family tried to influence you to "Do Gender", or to actively play the role of female. Playing with Barbie, dressing in pink- they were all probably things you learned to do by observing your sisters and because of your parents' encouragement. At the same time, I suspect you were also influenced by cultural symbols like Barbie- which were actually probably introduced to you by family. It's just a guess, but I bet the media and things you saw on TV also affected your behavior. All of these are examnples of the many sources of influence we deal with in modern society. Even though I'm not entirely sure that socialization it the only factor in determining our gender behaviors, it's clear that gender socialization played an important role in shaping your gender identity. Incidentally, I think your bio also proves some of the flaws of the gender socialization theory- it assumes that people don't change. Your bio proves that people can and do change as they grow- so nothing is totally set in stone.
ReplyDeleteIt seems from what I have read that you associate yourself with what you would consider a "girl" gender assignment. From playing with barbies to feeling that you get overemotional. In other words you are "doing gender" you are being what you idolize a girl to be, but from the rest of your bio I got a vibe that you are determined to be something more than what you claim you currently are.
ReplyDeleteI also see that you assimilate women with having a more difficult time being independent, but you identifying this problem should only encourage you to be stronger about the whole ordeal!
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ReplyDeleteYour childhood experience is more likely to reveal the effect of Gender role. I learned that it varies a lot from different society and would greatly influence people’s thinking about what they are suppose to be throughout their lives. Appearantly families might have the most apperant influence on your perceive of gender role. I guess as most of traditional families do, your parents might think girls are more fragile and need more careness. Their treatment express their opinion that girls are delicate and soft, thus influence your attitude too.It seems like "installing gender" but that also shows their careness and love. Changing the environment will leads more challenges but it will also enrich your experience. It's enjoyable too.
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