My mom always wanted a baby boy before I was born. Maybe that is the reason why I was more masculine than feminine. :p In kindergarden and I used to play with the boys since I thought they were more fun than the girls. My mom never forget when I kicked a boy in the face (I forgot how that happened but I made him cry so bad) and she had to come to school to apologize to the boy's parents. I fought and wrestled with my brother frequently. Moving on to junior high school, I played basketball and I was the fastest runner in the girl's basketball team. I was involved in a lot of organizations and during those times, I prefer to help the guys carry heavy loads and their other jobs other than sitting with the girls, making posters.
THE PRESENT (more feminine)
Now I am more balanced. I look and act more feminine but I still have this masculinity inside me. Pink is one of my favorite colors and most of my stuffs are pink. I love wearing dresses and other feminine clothes. In senior high school, I joined the dance team and I took cheerleading as my extra-curricular. I love fashion and I like to decorate my things. People who looked at me now, probably won't believe that I used to be masculine.
HOW CAN THIS HAPPEN?
1. Parents (the biggest influence)
My mom knows that I was masculine since I was a kid so she tried to introduce femininity into my life as much as possible. Since I was a kid, my mom always dressed me up in cute pink dresses and until now she still bought me cute frilly skirts and other feminine clothes. She forced me to take ballet lessons. She prevented me from playing basketball and I had to quit the team for a while. Both my parents taught me how a girl should talk, walk, act, and behave. My mom forced me to take "John Robert Powers" program, which basically trained girls and taught them manners of how to be a proper lady.
2. Friends and Media
Most of my friends are feminine and they constantly exposed these femininity to me. I spent about 10 hours hanging out with them each day so the exposure is very influential. The media is very powerful in shaping my gender identity. Most of the movies and tv-shows I saw depicted that female has to be feminine and the most popular girls are the beautiful, blond, feminine, and graceful ones. The female magazines I read are about fashion, beauty, etc. All these media and the people around me have constantly reinforce me to be more feminine.
I'm going to attempt to analyze your gender bio :)
ReplyDeleteSo! It seems that your mom took on anticipatory socialization, in that you were a girl, therefore feminine, so she taught you to be "gender appropriate" in what seemed feminine to her in her eyes. Clearly, she anticipated the sorts of things she expected you to play as an adult.