I am the third daughter in my family. My parents gave birth to my two older sisters and me. To be honest, both of my parents want to have a boy rather than have me.
However, they also raised me with all their love. As I mentioned above, I got two older sisters, they always tell me how to be a girl or how to act like a girl. If I talk with others with a loud voice, they would stop me and ask me to like a girl. If I play with a boy closely, they would stop me and tell me this is not a girl should look like. If I didn’t clean my room up, they would tell me girls should not like that, girls should very tidy and clean.
When I was young, I always play Barbie and cooking games with my two sisters. I was dressed in pink and like a Barbie by my parents.
Frankly speaking, I always think people are not acting what they are, they are just basically learning what they should be. Just like me, my sisters and parents always ask me to behave like a typically girl should be, and I don’t think I’m doing myself.
I remember a sentence from song which is very impressed me which is “I don’t care what the people say, I just wanna go my way.” I hope all of you guys could also this.
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The actions your parents and sisters take is clearly an example of anticipatory socialization. Your older sisters already have an image in their heads of what a lady should be like, and want to make sure that you become one too. Being tidy and talking quietly are both example of female gender norms that have not died in the past decades.
ReplyDeleteI forgot to add that I agree with you on the fact that people should be themselves, and not feel pressured to act a certain way because others want them to be something different than what they actually are.
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